Motivate Your Child by Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, rn, bsn, is a Christian Parent’s Guide to Raising Kids Who Do What They Need to Do Without Being Told.
I chose to do this review because after we adopted my granddaughter and now have another granddaughter living with us we need all the help we can get. No one is ever a perfect parent but we try, sometimes too hard. Needless to say, the grandkids are really spoiled and we did it! We felt bad for things they had to go through and things they will question as they grow up.
The first section, the introduction, is called Imagining the Destination. It starts off by stating “Happiness may be found in the destination, but character is built-in the journey.” It goes on to tell you to see how much better things will be in the future and to imagine how everyone’s life will be improved by committing fully to Motivate Your Child.
It goes on to tell you that to raise a successful child you need to give them tools for them to learn how to adapt, work through challenges, and understand and appreciate life and God. The book teaches us, as parents, to adjust how we parent to help our child be self motivating.
By giving our children their ultimate destination without the proper tools, they do not know how to be successful and do not build character. Children need to have beliefs and need to be taught and understand spiritual beliefs.
Children develop morally at a fast rate and develop spiritually at the same time, these have a lasting impact on them. Conscience development is not just moral development, it helps them develop a sense of responsibility.
Here is a video about the book I found on their site HERE:
This is directly from the book:
As you read on you’ll learn about three levels of thinking that contribute to moral and spiritual development. Level one thinking is what kids engage in every day, thinking about themselves and their own activities. Level two thinking advances responsibility in kids at any age. It focuses on other people, other tasks, and time. Level three thinking considers what God might be doing in the present situation, further increasing a child’s maturity. These higher levels of thinking increase internal motivation. When you adjust your parenting strategies to enhance these other levels of thinking, you will maximize the work you do in your child’s heart.
PART 1 Moral Development in Children
External motivation has this way of squelching initiative, decreasing creativity, and robbing one of the satisfaction of accomplishment.
It goes on with sections about Developing the Conscience, A Common Parenting Mistake That Hinders Conscience Development, Building Internal Motivation, and Building the Conscience Has Practical Implications Now.
The next parts are Parenting Requires Strategy, What is the Conscience, Helping Kids Choose to Do What’s Right, When Kids Make Mistakes, Learning to Value Integrity, Compassion: Thinking Beyond Oneself, Kids Taking Initiative, What About Consequences?, and Putting the Conscience to Work Outside the Home. You can see how this book will help us, as parents, learn what are the most important things to teach our children to be successful
The 2nd Chapter is titled Spiritual Development in Children. This is a really important chapter and brings everything together with really great examples. Then the book concludes with Nurturing Hope.
I believe that most parents will learn a lot from this book. I only wish I would have had it years ago. I received compensation for this review but this is 100% my honest opinion!
This book is a reminder for all parents that children need to learn how to be the best, not just to be told you need to be the best or get yelled at for not meeting our expectations. They need to learn how to make the right choices or that their internal compass can help them be successful. They need to build that compass with the help of their parents so the right decisions or actions are what they will do, not just because we told them!
Even parents that think they are perfect parents can learn from this book. They have easy to follow examples and show us how to change something we normally might consider bad into a learning opportunity for your child and for yourself. How to handle some issues we all deal with on a daily basis. Is what you are doing currently having the best outcome for your child?
No one is perfect and this book does not scold us for how we parent, it teaches us how to take opportunities to give children the tools to make the right decisions and how their spiritual beliefs can help them forever.
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