This post is sponsored by National Center For Biblical Parenting. I am being compensated for helping spread the word about Motivate Your Child Action Plan, but Michigan Saving and More only shares information we feel is relevant to our readers. National Center For Biblical Parenting is not responsible for the content of this article.
Before you think this is just another program that will tell me what I am doing wrong let me explain some things. First when my daughter, now 30, was growing up she was way more than a handful. I had counselors, police officers, friends, and more people tell me there was nothing they could do. She was out of control and I needed help. Since the internet was not available, I went to the library and read all kinds of books. I took her to counselors and went with her each week for 8 years. Psychiatrists could not help and neither could anyone else.
She was diagnosed with adhd as a child, and bipolar as an adult. I could write books about some of her behaviors. Why am I talking about this? Because there is help now! This action plan will help you with behavior problems and bring you closer to your child. With my daughter it became hard for me to be close and love her the way I should have because of all the names she called me and numerous other things she did. Do not let yourself feel like this! It took me years to realize I did everything possible, that was available, to help her.
I was raised Catholic but have since not been involved in a church, so I am not super religious, so do not let that stop you from trying this wonderful tool for raising your children.
The motivate your child ACTION PLAN is exactly what I needed. We all want a great relationship with our children and sometimes that can be difficult. Hurt feelings, bad decisions, terrible things are said when you try to make your child do what is needed to make them a good person for their future.
Take a look at this video to see a quick view of how this program can help you.
We as parents need something beyond the reward/punishment model. This book starts by telling you how to get started. Now this is not going to be step 1, step 2, step 3, some of the steps you will need to adjust for your child.
Maybe you do not have any issues with your child, that is wonderful. I still feel this book can help any parent that takes the time to read it. Why not have some tools to bring you closer and make for sure your child will succeed in the future.
You can learn how to develop a parenting plan that takes your child’s unique needs into account. Use the outline of firmness, visioning, teaching, prayer, and coaching to flesh out a strategy to move your child from where he is today to where he needs to go.
This book takes an approach I have never seen before and it works. We have been having a lot of trouble with my granddaughter, she is only 9. She has been through and seen things that most adults never want to go through. We took over guardianship 2 years ago and started to make some headway, and also made her more secure. When her mother moved in with us my granddaughter thought she could do whatever, whenever she wanted. She expects that we have to let her be irresponsible, rude, and never thankful for anything. This is a work in process and probably will be for a long time.
The first and most important is to pray to God and present 3 things you would like him to help you with about your child. Things that are real concerns, not an example of what just happened, but something like not being so selfish.
Not to overwhelm her I wanted to start really slow. I had a quick 5 minute conversation with her and told her we were going to try a new approach and we all were there to help her. I told her to think about how we could help her be more responsible, and we would talk later in the week. Mom, Papa, and myself sat down and started a list of all the issues we had with her. Then we decided which quality character traits she needed to have help with to make her realize how her actions were not good for anyone.
Now this is not just about the child, we need to adjust how we react to things. You may need to change your schedule to help the child.
We sat down with her a few days later and explain what makes us sad and a wish. We told her we were sad about her being so hard to get up and get ready in the mornings and we wished she could let us know how we could help her get things done without arguing and without being told. We all came up with a list of things that need to be done each night before bed, and waking her up 15 minutes earlier so she has more time to wake up and get moving. I typed out her list and we praise her and tell her how great it is to have her doing these things on her own.
I also took it one step further, to work on the selfishness, I told her I wanted her to do 1 nice thing for someone else everyday and I ask her what she did each day. After a week I shifted this to at home. We have talked about how good it makes her feel to do something nice for anyone and how she feels when someone does something nice for her.
Try to keep it positive, include prayer where you can, and remind her you are helping her because it is her responsibility. She is slowly changing and like I said I am really taking it slow. I have notice a lot less fighting which is so helpful!
This book starts out by explaining how to find what you need to help change, helps you understand why this strategy works, gives wonderful real world examples of other children they have helped, and helps you to learn to lean on God more for the help your family can use. Also you will need to focus on the goal, not the immediate problem.
In no way do I think I am going to have a total transform with this child, but I do know I can see changes already. A child is a work in process so we need to adjust to how best to help them to grow up as a contributing member of society. I will probably refer back to this book for the rest of my life.
This book gives you access to 12 audio presentations by the authors, one for each chapter.
Marcy Crabtree is hosting a FB Release Party on May 20. Marcy runs a great party. We’ll announce the Giveaway Winners and have some additional giveaways during the event. Dr. Scott Turansky will be there to answer your parenting questions.
Follow them to stay up to date.
I received this product to give my honest opinion!